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There are the questions every serious couple – couples with commitment in mind -should discuss. And then there are the questions that I believe every intercultural, interracial, or international couple really must discuss – conversations that may not be as important for monoculture spouses or couples. This is a series for the second sort of questions – for the first, try the lists here, here, or here.
Everyday, for the next ten days, I’ll be posting a question that I think is a key one for all intercultural couples to discuss, along with why I think it’s so important, and how discussing this issue has helped Aditya and I in our intercultural relationship. As the series continues, the list below will be updated with the question of the day and a link to the post – so bookmark this page!
Background Cultural Questions
#1: What was your childhood like?
#2: What do you think are the best and worst features of your own culture? What do you find best and worst in my culture?
#3: Do you fit parts of your culture’s stereotypes?
The Two of Us
#4: What are our biggest communication challenges?
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Beyond Just the Two of Us
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The Bottom Line
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This list, obviously, won’t be covering everything that intercultural couples should discuss – but it does represent my personal “top ten”. Nor should you think of the simple question I’ll be posting as something that will just require a few minutes’ talk – these are questions that are meant to spark discussions, questions which are open-ended and have no right answer.
7. December 2009 at 1:26 am
This is great, and going to be immensely useful. Excited that you’re doing this
7. December 2009 at 9:41 am
thank you for posting this, these are things I go through in my head daily.
7. December 2009 at 3:43 pm
Fantastic! We’ll be checking back daily.
9. December 2009 at 7:01 am
This is a great idea. Thanks!
16. January 2010 at 4:11 pm
You’re forgetting sexuality. There are some cultural taboos against certain sexual acts and that is something that really needs to be dealt with as soon as possible because it can and will present a problem later on.
17. May 2010 at 8:19 pm
This is great, but where are the rest of the questions?
17. May 2010 at 8:22 pm
Coming soon
23. July 2010 at 3:12 pm
It is the first time I visit your website and I am very happy I found it, lots of things you share here will help me a lot, I am sure…thanks for your posts. ahh, I guess you might be married for a few years, but I can’t avoid saying that your wedding pics are superb, congrats!!!