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Intercultural Interviews: Indian Parents’ Perspective (Part One)

Friday, July 10, 2009

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I sat down with Aditya's parents, Maa and Baba, a few nights ago with a list of eight questions to find out their views on American culture and intercultural relationships... and we ended up talking for over an hour, thus necessitating a Part One and a Part Two. Today's portion focuses on the early days: their worries on sending their youngest son, Aditya, to a foreign country, thoughts on American culture, dating, and their first interactions with me.

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A Day in Our Lives – With Indian Inlaws

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

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In a short few days the only hope I'll have in the blearly mornings is that it might just be Bagel Monday in the office. When I crawl out of my sleep coma, you see, sophisticated details like which day of the week it is are completely beyond me - any day could be Bagel Monday. My primitave mind is only concerned with two things: getting our dogs, Kajol & Panda to shut up and stop wrestling on my larynx and/or bladder, and what sustenance awaits me that might be a good enough incentive to get out of bed. This past month, though, Bagel Monday has diminished in significance, and glorious 20 Ounces of Ginger Tea Everyday (With Biscuits!) has replaced it as my main morning motivator. I love it when my in-laws are staying with us. Note that I didn't say visiting us - that would imply that Aditya's parents are house guests while they're here, while, as Baba says, it's their home too. Granted, our daily life changes some when Maa and Baba are here in Washington DC, the morning tea being just one example, but the changes are more minor than many people who hear my in-laws are in-town would expect. Since we're coming to the close of Maa & Baba's second extended stay out here (they were here last year in the late summer, and will be visiting once more this year), I thought that it'd be good time to write about the "typical day" in our household while Aditya's parents are here.

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Indianfied Chicken Pot Pie

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

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You may have noticed that, unlike many intercultural blogs, I don't post any recipes of new Indian dishes I've learned to cook. Partially that's because, well, I don't cook much Indian food, really. And partially because I figure that all of you are intelligent to google your way to the thousands (or, at least, dozens) of cooking blogs that feature great recipes of traditional Indian dishes. There's a few blogs I particularly like listed in the sidebar under Odds & Ends, if you haven't seen this blogging niche before. However, at least in the food blogs I follow, I've seen an untapped segment in the market - there aren't any recipes of Indianfied traditional American dishes! This sort of fusion food, along with stir frys, is the majority of what I cook - just simple dishes that you ate growing up mixed with an Indian sense of spices. They're the best of both worlds: quick, easy recipes that I know like the back of my hand adjusted so that Aditya won't complain about "blandness" when we eat. So, today I'll share with you my recipe for Quick Indianfied Chicken Pot Pie. This is the dish that got amazed raves from Aditya's parents when I served it to them. (I think that prior to my cooking it, they hadn't realized I knew how to cook at all, so perhaps they were just glad I hadn't accidentally poisoned them.) It's a very simple, quick, filling dish, so even if you're not much of a cook, you should be able to manage just fine. Besides the text below, I've loaded a bunch of images on my flickr site to show you how to do it step-by-step too.

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Intercultural Marriage Fluff

Thursday, February 19, 2009

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I normally avoid memes, but, hey, dooce did this one. And who doesn't love a bit of relationship fluff, especially mid-week when the weekend still seems so far off? I'd love to hear all of yours as well - I'm not "tagging" anyone, but after you finish reading, do write up your own answering all or some of the questions. If you have your own blog, link back here for a trackback or comment with a link so I (and everyone else) can find 'em. And if you don't have your own blog feel free to add yours in the comments.

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A Mixed Pair

Monday, January 5, 2009

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It was really early in the morning, you see, when the dogs informed us that they needed to go out. My turn to let them out, unfortunately, but afterwards the three of us agreed the hike back upstairs was too long, so we settled on the couch for a nap until the sun was properly up. Well, Kajol - a total snugglebunny - and I settled on the couch, and Panda slept on the cool floor next to us. Panda Bear is the latest addition to our family, and, as an Alaskan Malamute, he tends to be a bit too warm to snuggle comfortably for that long indoors. He's about two and a half years old, and another rescue dog - poor pup spent most of his life tied in a field with grass so high he couldn't see out of it before Animal Cruelty rescued him. When he came to us he was twenty pounds underweight and didn't know what a treat was or how to play with another dog. He's still a bit of a failure with treats - he's excited to get one, but just drops it afterwards for Kajol to eat. Kajol, however, has taught him to play like a champion at the only game she knows: wrestling. We often look out onto the deck to see Kajol's head disappearing into Panda's massive jaw, or him just calmly sitting on Kajol while she struggles to get free. They're a well-matched pair, despite being from such different breeds - and I suppose there's a semi-corny lesson in there for all of us in an intercultural relationship, or, really, any mixed relationship where looks or personalities or abilities differ.

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Meeting the Desi Parents

Monday, April 14, 2008

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Few things fill me with as much dread as meeting my partner's parents. First off, I'm socially awkward by nature - at least when meeting new people. I never know how to make small talk, or when good eye contact crosses the line into weird staring, or if my posture and facial expressions are saying "possibly mentally deranged" rather than "cool and confident ". Then there’s the fact that I’m meeting the parents. While I’m not exactly a “people pleaser”, I do think it’s important to have a good rapport with the parents of your significant other, at least if he or she is close to them (and Aditya is). If the relationship continues then they're going to be a part of your life forever, and well, family matters, you know? And first impressions matter too. Finally, with Aditya’s parents I had the whole “different culture” thing to worry about too. All of the social rules and interpersonal cues – which I only have a passing knowledge of, anyways – go swishing out the window when you’re faced with a new culture. Not only could I completely mess up, I could completely mess up and not even know what I did wrong. Despite this, my initial meetings with Aditya’s parents – first Maa, then Baba – ended up going quite well. While this may be more due to their innate awesomeness than any actions of mine, I hope my story can help out some of you who are struggling with the same sort of worries I had had. Next post I’ll be focusing on some of the more “theoretical” aspects of meeting the parents, which will greatly extend some of the points I bring up here, so be sure to tune in for that too.

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