Comments on: My Immigrant Husband Is Now Free to Divorce Me! http://gorigirl.com/my-immigrant-husband-is-now-free-to-divorce-me intercultural relationship stories and advice Fri, 10 Sep 2010 02:17:17 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: jujubean http://gorigirl.com/my-immigrant-husband-is-now-free-to-divorce-me#comment-4995 jujubean Mon, 16 Aug 2010 20:19:45 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=1088#comment-4995 My husband just got his permanent residency greencard. He told me he did not have it and 2 months ago sat me down to tell me he'd had it for a few months and he slept with someone else. He has filed for divorce. I wish you ladies luck, I am sure there are great guys out there but as the headline says, my immigrant husband is free to divorce me... well mine actually is and I honestly question if that's the only reason he married me... My husband just got his permanent residency greencard. He told me he did not have it and 2 months ago sat me down to tell me he’d had it for a few months and he slept with someone else. He has filed for divorce. I wish you ladies luck, I am sure there are great guys out there but as the headline says, my immigrant husband is free to divorce me… well mine actually is and I honestly question if that’s the only reason he married me…

]]> By: Questions about life that seem important but are actually not: #5: “Why am I here?” | neoIndian - Confessions of a newly returned Indian http://gorigirl.com/my-immigrant-husband-is-now-free-to-divorce-me#comment-3540 Questions about life that seem important but are actually not: #5: “Why am I here?” | neoIndian - Confessions of a newly returned Indian Wed, 06 Jan 2010 18:23:46 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=1088#comment-3540 [...] Your green card [...] [...] Your green card [...]

]]> By: Gori Girl http://gorigirl.com/my-immigrant-husband-is-now-free-to-divorce-me#comment-3139 Gori Girl Sat, 28 Nov 2009 22:16:11 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=1088#comment-3139 Glad it was helpful - I hope your process goes as smoothly as ours did! Glad it was helpful – I hope your process goes as smoothly as ours did!

]]> By: apillai http://gorigirl.com/my-immigrant-husband-is-now-free-to-divorce-me#comment-3138 apillai Sat, 28 Nov 2009 22:13:42 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=1088#comment-3138 wow, thanks for the post! we'll be starting the whole mess ourselves pretty soon and the timeline is really helpful. :) congrats on the quick and painless process! wow, thanks for the post! we’ll be starting the whole mess ourselves pretty soon and the timeline is really helpful. :) congrats on the quick and painless process!

]]> By: Gori Girl http://gorigirl.com/my-immigrant-husband-is-now-free-to-divorce-me#comment-2748 Gori Girl Wed, 28 Oct 2009 01:09:12 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=1088#comment-2748 Srivisa, you should consult an immigration or divorce lawyer and NOT look for advice on blogs. Srivisa, you should consult an immigration or divorce lawyer and NOT look for advice on blogs.

]]> By: Srivisa http://gorigirl.com/my-immigrant-husband-is-now-free-to-divorce-me#comment-2747 Srivisa Wed, 28 Oct 2009 00:57:22 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=1088#comment-2747 Hi I filed for divorce in Jan this year. My I485 interview is tomorrow. My husband filed for GC for him and I last year. I did not receive any follow up letters from INS as he did not pass to me. His lawyer just sent me a letter and it got forwarded to me and then I came to know that I did not appear for three biometric appointments. Now he says that I am not living with him, so not his family and not eligible for GC. Fine with me. However, he is not filling any of the divorce forms either. He just rejects the letters or refuses to reply to court sent letters nor appear for CMCs (case management conf). He is already at default of the court, but that would not fetch me divorce. He is holding me on both fronts. I am married to him for 13 long years and took me so long before giving up. Any advice for my interview tomorrow? Can I take divorce papers to immigration office and get him to sign in that? Anyway I don't care where I live but how well. That is why I do not care about this GC processing. Any advice to srivisa2002@yahoo.com will be much highly appreciated. Thanks. Hi

I filed for divorce in Jan this year. My I485 interview is tomorrow. My husband filed for GC for him and I last year. I did not receive any follow up letters from INS as he did not pass to me. His lawyer just sent me a letter and it got forwarded to me and then I came to know that I did not appear for three biometric appointments. Now he says that I am not living with him, so not his family and not eligible for GC. Fine with me. However, he is not filling any of the divorce forms either. He just rejects the letters or refuses to reply to court sent letters nor appear for CMCs (case management conf). He is already at default of the court, but that would not fetch me divorce. He is holding me on both fronts. I am married to him for 13 long years and took me so long before giving up. Any advice for my interview tomorrow? Can I take divorce papers to immigration office and get him to sign in that? Anyway I don’t care where I live but how well. That is why I do not care about this GC processing. Any advice to srivisa2002@yahoo.com will be much highly appreciated. Thanks.

]]> By: Gori Girl http://gorigirl.com/my-immigrant-husband-is-now-free-to-divorce-me#comment-2665 Gori Girl Tue, 20 Oct 2009 20:04:15 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=1088#comment-2665 Let us know what happens, Andrea. I'd be interested to see if the joint-property theory holds up or not. (Not that you can actually draw any conclusions from a handful of cases...) We had to fly across the US for the original green card interview, which was <i>not</i> fun. (Especially since I was teaching at the time, and couldn't miss more than a day of work.) I hope you guys get your interview waived! Let us know what happens, Andrea. I’d be interested to see if the joint-property theory holds up or not. (Not that you can actually draw any conclusions from a handful of cases…)

We had to fly across the US for the original green card interview, which was not fun. (Especially since I was teaching at the time, and couldn’t miss more than a day of work.) I hope you guys get your interview waived!

]]> By: Gori Girl http://gorigirl.com/my-immigrant-husband-is-now-free-to-divorce-me#comment-2663 Gori Girl Tue, 20 Oct 2009 19:39:01 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=1088#comment-2663 Heh. You're WAY more diligent than we were - for our trip to India, for instance, all we mailed in were a few copies of photos and a photocopy of our passports showing the same entry date on the immigration stamp. Heh. You’re WAY more diligent than we were – for our trip to India, for instance, all we mailed in were a few copies of photos and a photocopy of our passports showing the same entry date on the immigration stamp.

]]> By: Gori Girl http://gorigirl.com/my-immigrant-husband-is-now-free-to-divorce-me#comment-2662 Gori Girl Tue, 20 Oct 2009 19:37:19 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=1088#comment-2662 That sounds like quite the hassle, Deanna! And I thought we had it tough when we had to fly back to California from the East Coast for our first interview. That sounds like quite the hassle, Deanna! And I thought we had it tough when we had to fly back to California from the East Coast for our first interview.

]]> By: Andrea http://gorigirl.com/my-immigrant-husband-is-now-free-to-divorce-me#comment-2661 Andrea Tue, 20 Oct 2009 19:12:18 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=1088#comment-2661 Congrats! My husband has his last fingerprinting in two weeks and then we get to find out if we need a follow-up interview, or not. I really hope not, since we're living out of the country for a few months and would need to both fly back (expensive around the holidays!). We don't have a mortgage, a car, children or pets jointly, so I'm a bit worried... but it's pretty apparent from everything else in our files that it's not a fraudulent marriage, so hopefully it will all work out... Congrats! My husband has his last fingerprinting in two weeks and then we get to find out if we need a follow-up interview, or not. I really hope not, since we’re living out of the country for a few months and would need to both fly back (expensive around the holidays!).

We don’t have a mortgage, a car, children or pets jointly, so I’m a bit worried… but it’s pretty apparent from everything else in our files that it’s not a fraudulent marriage, so hopefully it will all work out…

]]> By: Deanna http://gorigirl.com/my-immigrant-husband-is-now-free-to-divorce-me#comment-2648 Deanna Tue, 20 Oct 2009 03:33:33 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=1088#comment-2648 Congratulations! Back in the 'olden days' when we got married, I represented us! I just remember that no matter what was in my 4 inch tall stack of forms and papers, the agent always wanted the one thing I didn't have. As for second interview, we did not have one either--I'm going with the joint mortgage theory--I assumed they figured I wasn't letting him out of my sight! Citizenship was a little tricker, only because we moved from Boston to Chicago after all was done, only the swear in left to do, but Boston--and this is not an exaggeration--only sent an empty file with my husband's name written on it, so he had to redo most. He was finally set to go, and then the Federal Government closed down for lack of money. Luckily they went ahead and did the ceremony for those already in process. Congratulations!

Back in the ‘olden days’ when we got married, I represented us! I just remember that no matter what was in my 4 inch tall stack of forms and papers, the agent always wanted the one thing I didn’t have.

As for second interview, we did not have one either–I’m going with the joint mortgage theory–I assumed they figured I wasn’t letting him out of my sight!

Citizenship was a little tricker, only because we moved from Boston to Chicago after all was done, only the swear in left to do, but Boston–and this is not an exaggeration–only sent an empty file with my husband’s name written on it, so he had to redo most. He was finally set to go, and then the Federal Government closed down for lack of money. Luckily they went ahead and did the ceremony for those already in process.

]]> By: Amanda http://gorigirl.com/my-immigrant-husband-is-now-free-to-divorce-me#comment-2633 Amanda Fri, 16 Oct 2009 08:45:34 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=1088#comment-2633 PS--my backup proof in case we got sent to Stokes was to print out every blog post about Good Man I ever wrote. PS–my backup proof in case we got sent to Stokes was to print out every blog post about Good Man I ever wrote.

]]> By: Amanda http://gorigirl.com/my-immigrant-husband-is-now-free-to-divorce-me#comment-2632 Amanda Fri, 16 Oct 2009 08:44:12 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=1088#comment-2632 Our process was easy too. We had his (but it feels like "our!") greencard (without Obama on the back) in hand 97 days from the day we sent our package in. At our interview the guy told us that the more "proof" we send in in 1 year and 9 months (well, now 1 year and 7 1/2 months), the less likely we are to have to do a second interview. I'm getting smart this time--I'm keeping a file of joint stuff already copied and ready to go. This little honeymoon we're on? When we get back the receipts, ticket stubs, etc are going to be copied and filed, ready to pull out later! Anyhow--many congratulations to you both. Our process was easy too. We had his (but it feels like “our!”) greencard (without Obama on the back) in hand 97 days from the day we sent our package in.

At our interview the guy told us that the more “proof” we send in in 1 year and 9 months (well, now 1 year and 7 1/2 months), the less likely we are to have to do a second interview. I’m getting smart this time–I’m keeping a file of joint stuff already copied and ready to go. This little honeymoon we’re on? When we get back the receipts, ticket stubs, etc are going to be copied and filed, ready to pull out later!

Anyhow–many congratulations to you both.

]]> By: N S http://gorigirl.com/my-immigrant-husband-is-now-free-to-divorce-me#comment-2631 N S Fri, 16 Oct 2009 02:42:20 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=1088#comment-2631 Gori girl, u are hilarious! lolol seriously! The Title of the blogpost, the image and the frack u had me roaring with laughter! Congrats to A on getting the PR, now be nice to him :P Gori girl, u are hilarious! lolol seriously! The Title of the blogpost, the image and the frack u had me roaring with laughter! Congrats to A on getting the PR, now be nice to him :P

]]> By: Jenn23 http://gorigirl.com/my-immigrant-husband-is-now-free-to-divorce-me#comment-2630 Jenn23 Thu, 15 Oct 2009 16:11:25 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=1088#comment-2630 That's awesome! That’s awesome!

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