Comments on: Interracial Marriage in the US: Some Simple South Asian Demographics http://gorigirl.com/interracial-marriage-in-the-us intercultural relationship stories and advice Wed, 01 Feb 2012 18:22:04 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.3 By: Tiger http://gorigirl.com/interracial-marriage-in-the-us#comment-29979 Tiger Fri, 05 Aug 2011 11:46:06 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=632#comment-29979 Why not? If one individual can do it, I'm sure there are others who just might. What about the honour killings that take place on the Indian subcontinent, for even just dating someone of a different caste or religion? Please understand that I'm not condoning such actions, but simply bringing to attention that it might still be possible, since one individual did do it. Why not? If one individual can do it, I’m sure there are others who just might. What about the honour killings that take place on the Indian subcontinent, for even just dating someone of a different caste or religion?

Please understand that I’m not condoning such actions, but simply bringing to attention that it might still be possible, since one individual did do it.

]]> By: Raj http://gorigirl.com/interracial-marriage-in-the-us#comment-21895 Raj Tue, 16 Nov 2010 18:03:04 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=632#comment-21895 More light skinned South Asians marry white people in America. You will not get too many dark skinned South Asians marrying white people. More light skinned South Asians marry white people in America. You will not get too many dark skinned South Asians marrying white people.

]]> By: AXIS http://gorigirl.com/interracial-marriage-in-the-us#comment-4989 AXIS Fri, 13 Aug 2010 01:51:40 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=632#comment-4989 "Indian women have became the most characterless and greedy women in the world. they are also not much good -looking and intelligent." For intelligence and good-looks, are you blind and mentally ill? I mean that completely seriously. Take group of girls from Delhi and group of girls from London; I guarantee the Delhi batch will far-more better educated and way, way, way more good-looking and beautiful; I live in Delhi myself, and have lived in London and New York for a few months and I have a hard time believing that anyone could consider white women more intelligent and good-looking than Indian women, (especially the latter!) that too coming from an Indian man. “Indian women have became the most characterless and greedy women in the world. they are also not much good -looking and intelligent.”

For intelligence and good-looks, are you blind and mentally ill? I mean that completely seriously. Take group of girls from Delhi and group of girls from London; I guarantee the Delhi batch will far-more better educated and way, way, way more good-looking and beautiful; I live in Delhi myself, and have lived in London and New York for a few months and I have a hard time believing that anyone could consider white women more intelligent and good-looking than Indian women, (especially the latter!) that too coming from an Indian man.

]]> By: Brenton Haymaker http://gorigirl.com/interracial-marriage-in-the-us#comment-4867 Brenton Haymaker Wed, 09 Jun 2010 19:53:46 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=632#comment-4867 fine advice. I'm going to post a link of this podcast on my blackboard website for my students. Everything you said works for discussion boards too. Thanks ! fine advice. I’m going to post a link of this podcast on my blackboard website for my students. Everything you said works for discussion boards too. Thanks !

]]> By: Ed http://gorigirl.com/interracial-marriage-in-the-us#comment-4443 Ed Sun, 09 May 2010 16:00:41 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=632#comment-4443 Nandhu, this isn't an issue of White Girls vs Asian Girls, who cheats more? It only proved one thing that women are also equally capable of cheating like men and, women tend to get away with it more easily. I sympathize with you because I am divorced from my ex-wife for the same reason and circumstances (out of nowhere with a new colleagues she barely knew for a month in new working place) too. :) I understand how tough it is. Great to read you're rebuilding your life. I am too, without a woman that is. One thing I can assure you though, you will never look at women the same way again. In the past, perhaps it's easier to give the benefit of doubts. After such an experience, you will find trusting a woman not as easy anymore regardless of how sincere a woman may sound or behaves towards you. No doubt there have been women hoping to have a casual date with me and see what may be brewing, they usually get a hard time from me. Not because I am putting my anger and betrayal on them, but we have all learned that "talk is cheap". And most of them, don't really bother to understand the kind of circumstances we have lived through. Our perceptions change, our expectations (of a woman) and criterias change too. It's a struggle, but it will all get better when you figure your way out of it. I did, and alive and kicking still. Nandhu, this isn’t an issue of White Girls vs Asian Girls, who cheats more? It only proved one thing that women are also equally capable of cheating like men and, women tend to get away with it more easily. I sympathize with you because I am divorced from my ex-wife for the same reason and circumstances (out of nowhere with a new colleagues she barely knew for a month in new working place) too. :) I understand how tough it is.

Great to read you’re rebuilding your life. I am too, without a woman that is. One thing I can assure you though, you will never look at women the same way again. In the past, perhaps it’s easier to give the benefit of doubts. After such an experience, you will find trusting a woman not as easy anymore regardless of how sincere a woman may sound or behaves towards you.

No doubt there have been women hoping to have a casual date with me and see what may be brewing, they usually get a hard time from me. Not because I am putting my anger and betrayal on them, but we have all learned that “talk is cheap”. And most of them, don’t really bother to understand the kind of circumstances we have lived through. Our perceptions change, our expectations (of a woman) and criterias change too.

It’s a struggle, but it will all get better when you figure your way out of it. I did, and alive and kicking still.

]]> By: abhi http://gorigirl.com/interracial-marriage-in-the-us#comment-3736 abhi Thu, 18 Feb 2010 23:06:20 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=632#comment-3736 You are a disgrace to india and indian people. @ D. i am so sorry for this hypocrtical bull radha is spreading. I was born in scoltand of an indian background, i like both the family, kind, polite culture of india but also the individual freedom, equal gender, racial etc liberty of the west.You, repeat, are a disgrace. You are a disgrace to india and indian people. @ D. i am so sorry for this hypocrtical bull radha is spreading. I was born in scoltand of an indian background, i like both the family, kind, polite culture of india but also the individual freedom, equal gender, racial etc liberty of the west.You, repeat, are a disgrace.

]]> By: Servo00 http://gorigirl.com/interracial-marriage-in-the-us#comment-3334 Servo00 Tue, 08 Dec 2009 07:44:30 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=632#comment-3334 your comments about the perception of south indians by "Punjabis" is somewhat ironic. Punjabis and other north indians, to a great extend, are the by products of thousands of years of foreign invasions (greeks, persians, mongols, etc...)So basically, they already are racially mixed. South indians, to a great extend, remain racially pure. The comment that punjabis refer to south indians as "kallus" and there by feel some sort of superiority, well, south indians have some interesting language they refer to when they talk about ignorant north indians aswell. I think it goes both ways!! If I am not mistaken, many of the most beautiful women in hindi cinema (north india) are south indians, in fact Dravidians by blood (ex Aishwarya rai, vidya balan, deepika, hema malini, sri devi, etc...). Its important not to generalise and alienate a significant part of india that is the very driving force of the economic growth that india is enjoying these days ! Finally, as far as interracial marriages are concerned, the main cause is simple, a lack of exposure to ones own culture. There is nothing wrong, atlest in my mind with white girls or others, its a matter of what you want and what you value, hurting/ killing thats wrong, plain and simple!! In my mind, if parents properly exposed their children (expecially girls) to indian culture and made that a part of their daily lives, their kids, when they grow, will choose to stick to their own kind. If a child growing up in western countries doesn't know what their culture is and why its important, whats to hold them back from dating people outside their own race (Its so easy to find girls to date!). You cant expect people to be loyal to something they don't know!! If people feel the need to fault someone, then I think its the parents that should be blamed, not the son/ daughter or the,to be, inter racial spouse. your comments about the perception of south indians by “Punjabis” is
somewhat ironic. Punjabis and other north indians, to a great extend,
are the by products of thousands of years of foreign invasions (greeks, persians, mongols, etc…)So basically, they already are racially mixed.
South indians, to a great extend, remain racially pure. The comment that punjabis refer to south indians as “kallus” and there by feel some sort of superiority, well, south indians have some interesting language they refer to when they talk about ignorant north indians aswell. I think it goes both ways!! If I am not mistaken, many of the most beautiful women in hindi cinema (north india) are south indians, in fact
Dravidians by blood (ex Aishwarya rai, vidya balan, deepika, hema malini, sri devi, etc…). Its important not to generalise and alienate
a significant part of india that is the very driving force of the economic growth that india is enjoying these days !

Finally, as far as interracial marriages are concerned, the main cause is simple, a lack of exposure to ones own culture. There is nothing wrong, atlest in my mind with white girls or others, its a matter of what you want and what you value, hurting/ killing thats wrong, plain and simple!! In my mind, if parents properly exposed their children (expecially girls) to indian culture and made that a part of their daily lives, their kids, when they grow, will choose to stick to their own kind. If a child growing up in western countries doesn’t know what their culture is and why its important, whats to hold them back from dating people outside their own race (Its so easy to find girls to date!). You cant expect people to be loyal to something they don’t know!! If people feel the need to fault someone, then I think its the parents that should be blamed, not the son/ daughter or the,to be, inter racial spouse.

]]> By: Gori Girl http://gorigirl.com/interracial-marriage-in-the-us#comment-3312 Gori Girl Sat, 05 Dec 2009 17:20:16 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=632#comment-3312 suresh, please do not generalize in your statements. Some Indians may be the way you suggest, but certainly not all. suresh, please do not generalize in your statements. Some Indians may be the way you suggest, but certainly not all.

]]> By: suresh http://gorigirl.com/interracial-marriage-in-the-us#comment-3311 suresh Sat, 05 Dec 2009 16:51:54 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=632#comment-3311 <strong>Edited by Admin: suresh, the comments policy here does not allow you to attack or abuse other commenters. First strike. (3 & you're banned). Also, please refrain from making stereotypical or generalized statements.</strong> radha, for your kind information There are lots of indian Hindu men who have married foreign women and they allow them to practice their religion but their children are HINDUS only. there are lots of Indian HINDU males who are happily married to foreign women. If a hindu girl marries a foreign boy(there may be very few) then she does not remain hindu and the children or also not hindu. her relationship with hindu religion is over. her children turn out to be of other religion only. hindu girl's marriage with hindu boy only is successful. hindu girl's marriage with boy from other religion has never been successful. On the contrary Indian hindu boy's marriage with a christian or muslim girl has always been successful mostly. that is called a happy story. Hindu girl can marry only a hindu boy , if she marries a boy from other religion then she does not remain hindu. Hindu boy can marry a girl from other religion. you should keep this in mind. i do not think you have dated any white man. if you by chance , then shame on you. that shows your poor choice. i myself have dated lots of white christian women and also few pakistani muslim women. so i know better than you. my friend's wife is a white british girl. he is hindu. and both of them are very happily married since last 5 years. that is called happy story. Edited by Admin: suresh, the comments policy here does not allow you to attack or abuse other commenters. First strike. (3 & you’re banned). Also, please refrain from making stereotypical or generalized statements.
radha,
for your kind information There are lots of indian Hindu men who have married foreign women and they allow them to practice their religion but their children are HINDUS only.
there are lots of Indian HINDU males who are happily married to foreign women.
If a hindu girl marries a foreign boy(there may be very few) then she does not remain hindu and the children or also not hindu. her relationship with hindu religion is over.
her children turn out to be of other religion only. hindu girl’s marriage with hindu boy only is successful. hindu girl’s marriage with boy from other religion has never been successful. On the contrary Indian hindu boy’s marriage with a christian or muslim girl has always been successful mostly. that is called a happy story.
Hindu girl can marry only a hindu boy , if she marries a boy from other religion then she does not remain hindu. Hindu boy can marry a girl from other religion. you should keep this in mind.
i do not think you have dated any white man. if you by chance , then shame on you.
that shows your poor choice.
i myself have dated lots of white christian women and also few pakistani muslim women. so i know better than you. my friend’s wife is a white british girl. he is hindu. and both of them are very happily married since last 5 years. that is called happy story.

]]> By: suresh http://gorigirl.com/interracial-marriage-in-the-us#comment-3310 suresh Sat, 05 Dec 2009 15:57:18 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=632#comment-3310 radha, first of all i do not think you are a girl and if you are a girl then i pity you. let me tell you some facts. 1. indian women especially modern women never go to temples. they have no love for their religion. they have lost all their modesty and culture in the name of freedom. look at bollywood and life in general. you yourself have added lots of videos of characterless indian girls from bollywood in youtube or favored them. are you proud of them? if yes, then shame on you if you are a girl. 2. there are lots of prostitutes in india also like everywhere in the world. so indian girls are not clean as pure water. Indian women have became the most characterless and greedy women in the world. they are also not much good -looking and intelligent. indian women are doing literally anything for money. 3 so you should not feel bad or jealous if an indian man marries a foreign girl whether european or usa or paki or arab. there are lots of indian men who have married foreign women but only a few negligible indian women may have married foreign men. those indian men who marry foreign women their children are HINDUS only. They raise their children as HINDU children only inspite of their wife being non-hindu. I have seen it. so you should not worry 4. regarding indian fathers they are generally very strict and religious and care for the family. but i cannot say the same thing for indian women now-a-days sadly. so you should keep this facts in mind instead of posting usless comments. radha,
first of all i do not think you are a girl and if you are a girl then i pity you. let me tell you some facts.
1. indian women especially modern women never go to temples. they have no love for their religion. they have lost all their modesty and culture in the name of freedom. look at bollywood and life in general. you yourself have added lots of videos of characterless indian girls from bollywood in youtube or favored them. are you proud of them? if yes, then shame on you if you are a girl.
2. there are lots of prostitutes in india also like everywhere in the world. so indian girls are not clean as pure water. Indian women have became the most characterless and greedy women in the world. they are also not much good -looking and intelligent.
indian women are doing literally anything for money.
3 so you should not feel bad or jealous if an indian man marries a foreign girl whether european or usa or paki or arab. there are lots of indian men who have married foreign women but only a few negligible indian women may have married foreign men. those indian men who marry foreign women their children are HINDUS only. They raise their children as HINDU children only inspite of their wife being non-hindu. I have seen it. so you should not worry
4. regarding indian fathers they are generally very strict and religious and care for the family. but i cannot say the same thing for indian women now-a-days sadly.
so you should keep this facts in mind instead of posting usless comments.

]]> By: Gloria http://gorigirl.com/interracial-marriage-in-the-us#comment-2490 Gloria Sun, 27 Sep 2009 23:49:33 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=632#comment-2490 I forgot about this thread, lol Aditya, look at the statistic posted here. When Indians marry out, they overwhelming choose a particular group and overwhelming disregard another. Sure, ONE incident that we know of ended in death, which is why I said it COULD be deadly, not it IS deadly. The inferences I've made based on those statistics, my personal observations of Indian attitudes towards Blacks/African in India and throughout the diaspora, and things I've read throughout the internet has led me to an understanding that (no offense) I'm positive you know but simply don't want to admit. Again, I am not implying that ALL of those relationships will end tragically. But as I said, it's no secret that Indians put a shameless premium on whiteness. I forgot about this thread, lol

Aditya, look at the statistic posted here. When Indians marry out, they overwhelming choose a particular group and overwhelming disregard another. Sure, ONE incident that we know of ended in death, which is why I said it COULD be deadly, not it IS deadly. The inferences I’ve made based on those statistics, my personal observations of Indian attitudes towards Blacks/African in India and throughout the diaspora, and things I’ve read throughout the internet has led me to an understanding that (no offense) I’m positive you know but simply don’t want to admit. Again, I am not implying that ALL of those relationships will end tragically. But as I said, it’s no secret that Indians put a shameless premium on whiteness.

]]> By: Nandhu http://gorigirl.com/interracial-marriage-in-the-us#comment-2352 Nandhu Wed, 09 Sep 2009 19:00:00 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=632#comment-2352 Unfortunately I don't have a happy ending story, was married to an American woman for 5 years and she was betraying me for 3 years out of the 5 while we were married. I knew this woman for almost a decade now and it was really hard for me to take the betrayal, it came from nowhere and I honestly never thought we had a problem. I am divorced now , rebuilding my life , I am not judging anyone here nor passing blame , just wanted to share my piece of my struggle . Unfortunately I don’t have a happy ending story, was married to an American woman for 5 years and she was betraying me for 3 years out of the 5 while we were married. I knew this woman for almost a decade now and it was really hard for me to take the betrayal, it came from nowhere and I honestly never thought we had a problem. I am divorced now , rebuilding my life , I am not judging anyone here nor passing blame , just wanted to share my piece of my struggle .

]]> By: D http://gorigirl.com/interracial-marriage-in-the-us#comment-2351 D Wed, 09 Sep 2009 16:42:28 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=632#comment-2351 Haha, no problem GG. This one was pretty amusing once I went back and actually read the whole rant. Welcome back! :) Haha, no problem GG. This one was pretty amusing once I went back and actually read the whole rant. Welcome back! :)

]]> By: Gori Girl http://gorigirl.com/interracial-marriage-in-the-us#comment-2346 Gori Girl Tue, 08 Sep 2009 18:04:22 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=632#comment-2346 Comments on this post are going to be temporarily suspended until I clear out the crazy. Thanks to everyone who stepped up while I was out on vacation. :-) Edited September 8th, 2:31 pm: I'm sorry to see the comments of a few spun out of control on this thread. RADHA, please note that abusive comments towards other poster are not allowed, and will get you banned - hiding behind different names will not keep you safe. Also, please do not go on crazy-ass rants here. If you feel the need, try starting your own blog at blogger or wordpress.com. This is not the place for it. Shyamsunder, the plural of anecdote is not data. While qualitative information can indicate some social trend is afoot, and can help in generating <strong>hypotheses</strong>, it does not prove anything in particular. I appreciate that you're trying to add information to the dialogue, but I think posting of snippets of articles would be best done in the forum section where a more detailed discussion can take place than here in older posts, where fewer eyes see it. D, thanks for not feeding the trolls anymore than you did. ;-) Comments on this post are going to be temporarily suspended until I clear out the crazy. Thanks to everyone who stepped up while I was out on vacation. :-)

Edited September 8th, 2:31 pm:
I’m sorry to see the comments of a few spun out of control on this thread.

RADHA, please note that abusive comments towards other poster are not allowed, and will get you banned – hiding behind different names will not keep you safe. Also, please do not go on crazy-ass rants here. If you feel the need, try starting your own blog at blogger or wordpress.com. This is not the place for it.

Shyamsunder, the plural of anecdote is not data. While qualitative information can indicate some social trend is afoot, and can help in generating hypotheses, it does not prove anything in particular. I appreciate that you’re trying to add information to the dialogue, but I think posting of snippets of articles would be best done in the forum section where a more detailed discussion can take place than here in older posts, where fewer eyes see it.

D, thanks for not feeding the trolls anymore than you did. ;-)

]]> By: D http://gorigirl.com/interracial-marriage-in-the-us#comment-2345 D Tue, 08 Sep 2009 17:42:46 +0000 http://gorigirl.com/?p=632#comment-2345 Radha/Prem/John/Dan, you're not fooling anyone by changing your handle to post the same crazy things over and over again. Radha/Prem/John/Dan, you’re not fooling anyone by changing your handle to post the same crazy things over and over again.

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