“Perhaps by not attacking someone for using a simply defined and used word, based on your own issues with self-worth or inner-judgement.”

That was your reply to my general comment (which possibly didn't apply to you). Attacking someone after reading a single general post is more condescending and judgmental than carefully analyzing your tone and giving a diffident swine like you what she deserved.

“your way of writing is offensive.”

That's because yours was. I haven't left any comments against “Max Mueller's Dharam Patni” similar to the ones I left you, have I? They had good rebuttal points.

When all the other women in this forum have made their points in a legible fashion, you couldn't even go back, read your comments and correct yourself. Failure of doing so resulted in my telling you how ineffably ignorant you are (and write in, deliberately, comments like “literally none!”)

I called you a “skank,” “imbecile” (and “liberal”) because you seem ed to fit the Indian stereotype of the “offensive white girl,” which your comments have proven. So those words weren't baseless by any means.

With this attitude of yours, don't ever think about settling in India, if you have any future plans of doing so.

Getting bent out of shape from an initial comment which you think didn't address you? This is insecurity at its peak! Go back and read the comments and tell me who else have I called names.

Literally none?!?

“Yes, you are absolutely correct that using the terms “white woman”, “Indian guy” or “brown guy” is not, in and of themselves, derogatory or racist. Using them in a negative context is.”

Read this very carefully, ultimate troll! Using those terms even in a negative context is not racist. Is the claim “the Roma of eastern Europe have an average (general) IQ of 70″ racist? The idea that half of the Roma population is retarded is racist to imbecile liberals like you, true to every international journal in psychology.

Of course you are offended, liberal. After trashing the USA with degrading economic and political strategies, the only thing left for you liberals to do is come on the net and get offended by a comment, which explicitly addresses the general trend regarding the Indian-White relationships, and start a nasty altercation.

So I just replied the way Mark Lewin would have!

Yes, you are absolutely correct that using the terms “white woman”, “Indian guy” or “brown guy” is not, in and of themselves, derogatory or racist. Using them in a negative context is.

Unfortunately for you, that's all you've been doing since your first comment here. Hence the responses.

The dissident things that you have written have been what us liberals like to call “riding the cusp” of what is socially acceptable. The manner, tone and use of verbiage in your comments show that you are a judgmental, condescending person with a propensity to racism. Whether this is who you really are…does not change that this is who you are showing to us.

To call what you have written an intellectual and social commentary is a farce.

While I believe that some of the things that you have written have validity, the way in which you wrote robbed your comments of all authority or honor.

For instance….your comment from above.

“Hmmm, how many of the Indians who come to the USA end up with white women who are even of equal (let alone more) academic standing in a scientific field? Literally none! That goes even for Fareed Zakaria and Sanjay Gupta.”

So Aditya and the rest of us were wrong to take your writing “Literally None”….uhm literally?

To me, as well as others, your way of wording this implies that either Indian men are superior to white women or that Indian men are incapable of feeling their own worth, self esteem or masculinity if they marry a white woman higher in education than they are. Essentially that they would feel emasculated with a stronger or equal woman.

While I think that both of these ideas or concepts would have made a great topic of debate, your way of writing is offensive. Essentially, they become a derogatory remark.

And yes, I called you an imbecile because your comments are absurd and weak. Only someone with little esteem or respect for himself would lower his own touted “quality” of character to call other people baseless names.

I called you a racist because your comments have proven it. I however, have never acted in any way to resemble or deserve being called a “skank”. If you are not a racist, then prove it by having a real and true intellectual debate without stooping to name calling, condescension, or “ethnic generalizations”. Do you think that this is even possible for you?

If not, then I feel sorry for you. You are a man who has lost his honor, who is not a gentleman and is full of such anger, hate and false superiority that you belittle those you see as being stronger than yourself.

He's been giving me compliments left and right! First on my Essay writing capabilities, then on my blog and now his views on how I dance rhythmically.

What a nice guy! I can perfectly see why he is a “well qualified ethnic man”.

Either rein in your tongue, follow the comments policy, and write politely to all posters here, or I'll be perfectly fine showing you the door.

And I stand by what I said. You do have racist and judgmental qualities and your previous posts prove it.

Your continued use of the terms “white woman” and “Indian guy” or “brown guy”, and let's not forget that your assumption that Indian men do not marry White women who are better educated than themselves. That “brown men” marry white women for status. That “white women” marry “brown men” to be treated like a Goddess because we know a US guy won't. I believe these all speak plainly as to which one of is is the actual imbecile.

Just in case your education did not teach you the meaning of the word racist….here is the definition.

“a belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the various human races determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one's own race is superior and has the right to rule others.”

PS: I'm not in grade school anymore, so calling me names and pulling my hair isn't going to get my attention.

PSS: I do not dance rhythmically in a loose-limbed manner. http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/skank

If you read my comment CORRECTLY, you will notice that I say ALL cultures are tribal in essence, including the post-modern west.

But people who are truly “post-modern” in view (and that does not include the majority of people in ANY country, will not be tribalist or racist. They have a more universal view.

Again, these people are a minority.

an *** like you who goes around calling people racist and mean should go back and read your own comments and see how *** you were.

You seriously have insecurity issues. Speaking of ***going after qualified ethnic men, you have spilled enough “white” stereotypes against a person whom you met on the net to qualify as one.

I know exactly what kind of *** person you are: some white girl, who has never been treated well by white guys, who is seeking to marry a well qualified Indian guy, who thinks marrying a white girl is better than marrying an Indian (or any) girl of equal qualifications.

And I can be polite only to polite women, not ***like yourself.

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Your bigoted view that Indian culture is mostly against interracial marriages (and is still tribal) is based on what — your poor ability to use inductive reasoning?

“They see intimately mixing with other ethnicities as a sort of “threat.”

Well, I will have you know, I am not against interracial marriages, just against incompetent freaks going after well qualified ethnic men.

Travel around the world or at least read a damn book. The so called “post-modern west” doesn't support interracial marriage any more than the Ayatollahs support women's rights.

And you are right, it is inherent in all of us to mix with our own. This does not only apply to color of skin. At family gatherings, you will see cousin's that grew up near each other spending more time with each other than those that grew up away from the core family (at least here you will). Another example is education, those of my uncles and aunt's who went to University tend to spend more time together than those that did not.

I'm just so tired of seeing people who propagate negative behavior in others because of their own issues. I'm wondering why DDE felt the need to come here, say the things he said and then pretend as if he didn't say them full well expecting a backlash of comments. I know my fiance would say, that it's because he is either prejudice, poorly educated (book smart rather than “street smart”) or because he had an Intercultural relationship himself that went bad.

If, like you said, he is proud of his culture or ethnic background, wouldn't he also realize (ie: hasn't history taught us) that negative confrontations and behavior hamper his “cause” rather than promote it?

Doesn't change the fact that it bothers me that people can be so noxious.