Gori Girl

Post edited 1:45 pm – February 1, 2010 by milliac

1.      Who are you? Tell us a bit about yourself.

I am a white woman in my early 40's.  I was born and raised in the U.S. 

My great-great Grandfather was originally from Ireland, but he and his wife ended up in India during the British occupancy.  They raised their children there, but when they both died, their two sons were orphaned.  They were raised by the nuns in the Catholic Church in India, and when old enough they remained there and worked building the railroad.   My great Grandfather married and had his children (my Grandmother) in India, and later my Grandmother married and my Mother was born in Calcutta.  They remained in India until my Mom was around 16, and then moved to England.  They both later immigrated the U.S. after my Mom met my Dad. We lived in a joint famiily, and I have always had an interest in Indian culture, as I grew up with my Grandmother's and Mother's stories. 

2.      How did you make your way here? Where did you find out about us?

I think I did a search for “gori” and this website came up. 

3.      Are you in an intercultural relationship or somehow deal with multiple cultures in your life?

I met a Punjabi-Hindu man from Delhi 11 years ago, and we have been married 8 years.  We have a 4 year old son. I have 3 children from a previous marriage.  My husband is a bit unique as he doesn't care if I am too involved in his culture…i.e.  I never have worn a sari or suit, even when in India.  (Actually he doesn't want me to wear this ever).  He really doesn't care about me learning Hindi, but he has become more encouraging as I try.   However, in many other ways there are certainly cultural expectations of me.

I have been to India four times.  Two before we married and two after.  They were all different trips, but each a love-hate experience. 

My MIL has been to visit several times, and off and on has lived with us for at least 2 ½ years.  My FIL's visa has been rejected 3 times, so we are now in the process of bringing his parents here to live full-time, which should be about 3 more months of freedom for me! 

4.      What does your name mean? Any story behind it?

Milliac.  It is a name I have used for a long time.  An old friend from Mumbai suggested the name Milli – Hindi for “found”.  AC stands for Anam Cara, a Gaelic term for “soul friend”.

5.      What is your avatar (if you have one)?

I'll get one soon.

6.      Give us some feedback on your impressions of the forum.  What do you like/dislike around here so far?

I am really thrilled to find this website.  I have peaked around a bit, and really excited to dive in.  It's a great resource for all of us in these types of marriages/relationships.  Bless you all!  God knows it's NOT easy! 

7. Where do you think you'll spend most of your time posting?

I am not sure yet.  I've been able to relate to a lot of what I have read so far.  It is all facinating!

ETA…sorry, I didn't mean to create a new post.  GG, please move this to the correct Introduction thread.